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4 years 9 months ago #16059 by Retread
Retread replied the topic: Venting
Hi Johnno,

I feel your pain, like most of us - I have been there as well. When you are at your worst it is easy to think that nobody will miss you, but believe me we can be a little short sighted in our darkest period.
People can be caught up in their own day to day existence, and their own very real problems, to the point that you may feel isolated from them, and being physically isolated yourself sure doesn't help. But you are a very important part of of your circle of friends and acquaintances, and indeed this group.
It is hard go through what you are enduring, and without Don's advice on "Venting" I think would have gone crazy - PLEASE VENT !
I didn't have to struggle with WC, I had to deal with the military system, and the department of Veterans Affairs, and believe me they are a "Law unto Themselves", they leave you way out in the cold, and I believe it is their aim to send you over the "Edge", as happened to several of my mates. Every time I phoned them, I was met by a voice that said - "What name your doctor are? How yo spel that? Velly good will get back to you". I felt I was still in the bush, and it nearly pushed me over.

If they can get you to the point where you take yourself out, it is a win for them. So I decided not to give in and eventually got some of the help I needed. Don't let the buggers win mate.
As has already been suggested, speak to you doctor about this, pain can certainly screw with your brain, and the chemistry gets out of sync, a short course of meds will probably help there as well.
My thoughts are with you Johnno, you are a precious individual, maybe a little further down the track, all of the us should get together for a reunion, and look back on this period of our lives.

All the Best

Gordon
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4 years 9 months ago #16079 by Johnno
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Hi all thank you for caring I find it easier to talk to you guys on line than load my burden on my wife I suppose I should but I was on my own on Wednesday and I suppose it hit me all of a sudden and I just went down , I called my psychologist in tears and made a fool of myself on her message bank .
I went to acupuncture and bawled my eyes out to Henri he basically is a great doctor as well as acupuncturist and he is very caring he told me to try not to hide my pain which most men try to and some can successfully do it .
He told me to send a message to my solicitor from the heart so they know where the hell I am .
Well I have and am waiting for a reply so will keep all posted
I do appreciate all of you and am glad to be to blather on and know that there is someone who I can share the load with
There is a saying I think a problem shared is a problem halved in our case thank to all it become almost invisible

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4 years 9 months ago #16080 by Retread
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Hi Johno, I am sure your psychologist wont think you made a fool of yourself, I think it great that you are able to release yourself as you have, it is far better than bottling it up, and toughing it out. Iin fact I am quiet envious, I wish that I could just let it out, but I fear that if I did I would never be able to stop, so much for military training.

However this group has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, for the first time in my life, I no longer feel alone, and you now have a group of caring people that have actually experienced what you are going through, and when they speak it is with understanding, and genuine heartfelt feeling for you.

Whenever you feel it is getting on top of you, get on to this forum and let us all know about it. As you say "a problem shared is halved, or better".

All the Best my friend, and keep in touch

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4 years 9 months ago #16081 by Johnno
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I also am ex military and we had it instilled in us at medical take two panadols and get back to work.
I have passed that on to my sons who still don't chuck a sickie
Honestly the military was good in that we have respect for our bosses and do the best we can for them but we have to learn to put our hand up and say help I hurt
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4 years 9 months ago #16083 by Retread
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Johnno, Had some good times, but the medico's only took an interest when they were tying a tag on toe. I guess it toughened us up to do the job we had to do, but the reality of it is we aren't machines, and we need to look out for ourselves and be open to ask for, and receive help.

I don't know if you have contacted the Veterans' and Veterans' Family Counselling Service (VVCS)
www.vvaa.org.au/vvcs.htm

If you haven't it would be worthwhile getting in touch with them, their services are available for ALL ex-service
personal, and you don't have to served in a combat role. They have some excellent free courses and counseling available, they put me in touch with a psychologist, who helped me greatly with my PTSD issues.

The road ahead will get easier, but when you hit a pothole, please get in touch.

All the Best
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4 years 9 months ago #16085 by Johnno
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Thanks for the offer and will do

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